A reoccurring thought I’ve had over the past year or so has been the concept of instant and self gratification. We live in an age where we can upload a pic to The Gram and *BOOM* you’ve got 85 likes within the hour. Anyone can share a meme someone else made and get a dopamine high off the likes we get. We live proudly by the motto “treat yo self” and wonder why the fuck we’re broke all the time.
The rise of technology has sped up the process for EVERYTHING. How are we supposed to know how to think or what to feel when we live in fast forward? So we use social media outlets to fill the void, burn through our own dopamine and serotonin, and are left suffering from existential anxiety day in and day out. We scroll, swipe, like, share, repeat ….
The age of instant and self gratification has been detrimental towards our ability to form meaningful connections with other people as well. We judge people on dating apps based solely on appearances, fall in love with the façade another person wears, and change who we are to become what others expect us to be (even if they have zero expectations). We can hop on a dating app, swipe, message, and have dick delivered within 45 minutes. Easy right? Try hopping on those apps looking for someone you want to be friends with on a real ass level – your messages are met with one line responses and then what the kids call “ghosting.” In the age of instant gratification, we easily become angry, bitter, and resentful when we don’t receive a text within the time frame we deem appropriate, become petty and childish and ignore people for days, jump to conclusions, create our own negative narrative, and act a damn fool.
The decline of face to face contact and the rise of social media usage has created a barrier not only in our intimate relationships, but our friendships as well. We compare our worst to everyone else’s best. We become envious and spend more money on more bullshit (thank you Facebook ads) and wonder why we aren’t happy yet. Our newsfeeds are constantly flooded with engagement, wedding, baby and travel photos, relationship status updates, #mancrushmonday’s and #womancrushwednesday’s, and any other kind of hashtag that gains more attention and more followers. Social media allows us to lurk in the shadows gathering information on our worst enemies and toxic crushes before giving someone a chance. Everyone is a private investigator. Nothing is secret, nothing is safe.
Can social media be a positive tool? Hell yes. But like with everything else, moderation is key. Western society is built on consumerism – and boy do we fucking love consuming and overindulging. Treat yo’ self after all!
Instead of refreshing your apps every millisecond – try picking up a book. Reading not your thing? Try audible or a podcast. Instead of finding a robot on Tinder – go meet someone at concert or ask a trustworthy respected friend to set you up. Instead of turning on the TV and getting lost in a black hole of streaming – journal more, write more, and create more! Are you a shitty cook? I am and probably will be forever, but pick out a recipe and make a dank meal. Learn more. Instead of reading the news and articles tailored to you on your FaceBook feed – expand your resources and broaden your perspective.
There’s so much out there and I think the biggest problem with my generation is either a) we are immobilized by the overwhelming amount of options and fear making the wrong choice, or b) we have become passive about our own lives and future and have no sense of personal development or purpose. Well newsflash, there is no right or wrong answer. You pick one thing up and if that doesn’t work, you move onto the next.
“If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another. The universe has no fixed agenda. Once you make any decision, it works around that decision. There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each thought, feeling, and action you experience. ” ~Deepak Chopra
For those of us who are passive about life without any goals, ambitions, or desire to contribute to the betterment of all – let’s pull our heads out of our asses, unplug from the matrix, and take our first deep breathe of somewhat fresh air. Actually live a little, and not vicariously through the image people elude to on Social Media.
Treat yo’ self in body, mind & spirit ….